Seduction Tips for Men

Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.

But I had my brain up my butt.

...maybe that's a little harsh.

But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:

First, I was working hard to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd but I've never fully recovered. And I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I've accepted what I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But...

Do you believe girls have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?
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Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there's that common phrase,  "He thinks with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and

achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.

Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, but so do women.

In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most time of your life.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I'm willing to bet it wasn't "money," or "lots of my free time," or "control over my

life."

It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,

excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a

woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her

time with them.

Society brainwashes men to believe that women are a prize to claim, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are

cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for

years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's another societal factor going on, that I call the "doofus dad" syndrome. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are "better."

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won't be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

When I analyzed tons and tons of dates I went on women, it was just when I realized it.

After that I started giving women smaller amounts of my time, but with my FULL ATTENTION.

Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

This make my girlfriends can't get enough of me - and I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

Ask you know, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

Just be real with her - don't spend more time that you want. no need of games.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.

Now it requires that in a short span of time that you can be able to meet a lot of women, which I'll have to take up in another newsletter.

It's not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

You should think that women aren't property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

Investing all your time with a woman is not a guarantee that you can "keep" her.

I want to make one more point - when you start being honest about how much time you're willing to give a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

You see, it usually comes from the social norm if you are following your true ways.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And no, we don't intend to impose our goals to you. I think you are capable enough to handle it to yourself, given the proper guidance.


Vin

Are you interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a "10"
kind of a woman? If yes, then you will find the letter very
interesting.

But first, let's go waaay back...

Back in high school, I had a girl classmate that was so
perfect.

She was smart, cool, and so beautiful it was hard to look at
her (and yet I couldn't look away)...

She was one of the popular kids in school but was so nice
and friendly to everyone.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were
flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I badly wanted to ask her to a senior prom but I chickened
out at the last minute.

It was a few years later that I realized that the girl had a
crushed on me all the senior year.

I have talked to lot of men and this seems a common
experience to them. they missed an opportunity to meet this
ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, or the girl
had broke their heart...

Ah, the hard to tame "10," a perfect girl that every guy
dream of but never seems to have it.

I have so many things to say about this so-called "10's." In
one word they are women of another "breed," but at the same
time, what makes them so is in the way they think.

To help you resolve this conundrum, and maybe help you find
that "perfect girl" for yourself, you need to understand you
own fascination with female perfection, and understand the
reality behind extremely beautiful women.

First thing, the idea about "10" is just a myth. There's no
such thing as a perfect human being. You cannot tell that a
girl is more "valuable" just because she looks beautiful
than the other girl.

The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns
you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only
true "10".

The world is full of 10's, you just need to have the skills
and ability to approach a lot of women and make an options
for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because
she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because almost all men do that.

She knows what you're about and sees you as shallow.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another
"level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated
much differently than other women.

You need to understand this so that you will know how to
treat these types of women.

As I've said, you shouldn't treat women "differently."

Let me clear this up.

You shouldn't treat a girl BETTER than the others. But there
are two things you need to know.

First, she don't like a guy that chases her for her looks
alone.

More than anything else, a woman values a guy that
appreciates her personality.

Now for the sake of yours, I''ll be giving you a heads up.

There are two types of "10's."

High self esteem, and low self-esteem.

The common type is the low self-esteem 10's. The women that
belongs to this group are used to being wanted for their
looks and they know that they didn't EARN an attention, so
they have a guilt complex.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are
in complete dumbasses.

It may sounds not good  but I call it like it is.

These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking
away their validation will make them flip out and do
anything to get it back.

Anything.

(As a side, these girls usually suck in bed and are total
head cases when you get involved with them.)

Now high self-esteem 10's are women that have had a taste of
the elite -they realized early on that high levels of
society were attainable to them, and they made an effort to
be successful, intelligent, and make the most of their
lives.

These women are motivated to put an extra effort because
they know that they are just a little closer to a great life
than everyone else.

Usually HSE 10's are intellegent, have good attitudes, have
a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being
clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go
to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with
their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with
friends (or studying if they were in college).

One of the interesting thing about this types of women are
that they are single for long periods of time while
in-between boyfriends. Why?

Because they have high standards for themselves, and since
most guys are either too intimidated to ask them out, or act
too needy and pathetic around them, it's rare that they meet
another man who is on their level.

But here's the good news. You will find these women the
easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being the best man you can be,
being a "male 10."

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely
notice an interesting thing.

There is an Auto-Rejection Mechanism that I call where some
women will try to protect themselves from being rejected by
you, by rejecting YOU first. This is where you'll get odd
responses from less attractive women - they will
occasionally be rude to you because they know they're not on
your level.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much
differently...you'll be amazed to see the most beautiful
women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether
on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you
are on their "level."

The woman will thinks "finally, a guy who can hang with me;
he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's
the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today,
instead of whistling from his car."

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of
course you'll also enjoy plenty of "adventures" with all
kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the
option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are lot of 10's out there waiting for you.

Don't spend another year missing something that you could've
been enjoying right now.

Vin

See what Vin has to say about the Mystery Pick-Up Artist

There are men that will never be successful with women.

You might think I've lost my mind in saying that, but it's true.

A lot of guys just won't get it. And it's not because they're not sharp with women or somehow defective...

In fact, it's a subconscious choice, that they have made unknowingly.

I know what's on your mind.

How can you make sure you are not one of those guys.

Is it? right!

Well I'm here to tell you how. What I'm about to say will probably never be heard from other gurus because it's such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Meet Matt.  Matt's a good guy who likes to socialize and he has taken a bootcamp with another pickup companies. But Matt still doesn't get the success he really wants; in fact he's not successful at all.

"Vin, why don't you help him!?"

There are a couple reasons why I didn't help Matt. One being is he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that's not the real reason. If Matt was only stubborn I would have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.

I've already said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get this  feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don't like hanging out with Matt and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he's trying to take some knowledge, power and fun from me.

It is the same thing happens to him when he's talking to women. He treats them in a friendly manner but always gives off this vibe that on another side he has an underlying intention.

Yeah yeah... I know. We all have intentions when it comes to women. And it isn't a bad thing. If you express your sexual intentions openly it will be acceptable to them, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel safe being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will kill any chance of success you might have.

So there you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It's not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends.  It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Be out there talking to women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing, interesting and wonderful.

Next thing you need to do is being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean that you directly tell a girl that the purpose why you talked with her is so that is to have sex. That's going to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

You can do a small subtle changes in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying.  There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

I bet you wouldn't want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking much of your time implementing it as require. Right? I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.

I have been quite an expert on fast pick-ups. But there's one problem that I want to share with you.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with women straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem...

SOMETIMES FAST PICK-UPS DON'T BECOME A RELATIONSHIP.

Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one night stand instead of converting it into a relationship.

Well, its fine for those that has that intention.

But a lot of times, you DO want to see the woman again - or possibly start a relationship with her.

Here's something I want you to know - In the past 2 years EVERY girl I have slept with has been under 4 hours.

And EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. wanted to see me again...

So why am I saying this?

I'm saying this NOT to brag. But I'm saying this so that you can realize the great amount of value I can offer you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important thing:

“HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH A WOMAN IS “NOT THE BASIS” TO START  A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER.”
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