Seduction Tips for Men

Have you avoided approaching a girl just because she is talking to another guy?

Or maybe you saw a group of girls with one or two guys with them and you ASSUMED the guys were cooler than you so you avoided approaching because you feared embarrassment.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with women who were with other guys.

They assume that the girl is "with" the guy, and assume he's her boyfriend.

This isn't a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially in a bar - it's a social setting where people meet other people. Plus - she's not his "slave" - she's a human being, not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses.

Approaching a woman who is "with" a guy often will make you look extremely confident, and draw out his jealous side, making him look insecure and weak.

The other reason points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception that's why they avoid talking to woman who is "with" a guy.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that the "other guy" is more cooler, stronger, or somehow powerful than they are.

This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been passed through human minds.

It's often hard to tell who the more "dominant" human is in any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

A guy doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

To assumed that the guy is a threat is the safest way to play. Because guys that are too bold may have won a few confrontations, but it will take them a single mistake that can end up their game.

And then their genes were taken out of the "race" so to speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid women unnecessarily because they are making false assumptions.

The thing is, when you are in the bar or club and you see a woman talking to another guy, you would think she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

I can't tell you how many exact times I have approached a woman that is being with a guy that I thought he was "with" that guy or say a boyfriend, then only to find out that it was just a dude that approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets to those times that I've missed so many opportunities talking to a woman just because I saw her with another guy. And this brings me to my first point:

YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO HER. DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE.

You'll never know until you find out. Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So use your head - just don't limit your options by making false assumptions.

The other important thing I want to talk about is the idea that another man can be more "dominant" than you.

The alpha male during caveman days had a real power - he knows where to get resources like food, and was physically stronger, that he could beat up competitors. The concept of the alpha male is completely obsolete.

But ask yourself if those same power are still existing today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his own - if you're reading this, you probably have an access to your needs like food. You're all set.

Plus, its illegal to use the physical strength just to beat people up. It is pretty much irrelevant to use in the modern world.

You'll always end up losing if you attack another person because the police always win.

You are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON! if you are thinking about it.

Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

It makes me mad- I recall all the women I missed out on because I was worried about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that other guys are dealing with same crap!

When time comes that you're on your deathbed, you are going to reminisce on all the things you did and didn't do. How painful would it be to say "I didn't meet that woman because I was worried of the other guy she's with," or "there were a lot of beautiful that I could have enjoyed, but I didn't even try to approached them because I saw them TALKING to another guy.

I don't want you to be like that.

So let's look at this on a deeper level. Seeing another guy as more dominant means you don't truly understand dominance.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when you're concerned with who is more dominant. There's a better focus.

To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. And dominant men don't think about who is dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing or want.

You see a group of girls talking to another guy. Instead of being concerned with who is more dominant between the two of you, just stay focus on the girls.

I seldom even acknowledge other guys, because it's proven to be just a waste of time. 9 out of 10 women don't even know the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, he's a friend of ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

Normally, seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating, more often they would like to bring with them a guy that is more of a  protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.

Besides, if he IS with one of the girls, that means he's NOT with the other girls - they are fair game.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Avoid some assumption, just get your focus in a USEFUL place, and don't allow some random dude to stop you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!